no. never. well, we've seen an awful lot of aggression here at school, and i was trying to figure out where this could be coming from. do you have any ideas what... father: what do you mean by aggression? well, she hits the other kids, she chases them, pins them down, she kicks. kicking? she's, uh, scratched her teacher. frankly, we can't keep her in school like this and let her around other children if she's going to keep attacking them. hendrick: the difference between poor and effective questioning is subtle. it's really more a matter of listening carefully and asking open-ended questions. what tips would you offer our teacher the next time she tries questioning a family member? productive questions might include, to begin a conference, "well, what's new?" when working together to solve a problem, "hmm. what have you tried so far?"